When we understand that philosophy (love of wisdom arrived at through personal effort and experience) is the ultimate medicine for all our psychological ills, we shall free ourselves from the bonds of sorrows. What is needed is philosophy in the sense of a lived, visceral experience like that of Kisha-Gotami. . . . (p. 76)
Negativities can be transmuted by cultivating positive qualities. This takes time to accomplish. If there is darkness in a room, all we need to do is switch on a light. We might need help, from a counselor, spiritual leader or friend; even an ordinary task like driving a car requires a few lessons.
In the story above, the Buddah as a friend and facilitator headed Kisha-Gotami in the right direction, and she was able to move from her painful intimate loss to loss as a general human issue. He helped her successfully move from a particular to the general. This is the way of wisdom. This gave her distancing. Wisdom is what makes us rise above life's miseries, not unrealistically but rather in the same timely existential way that Kisha-Gotami did. She confronted the main challenge of her life as she went from door to door. Little by little wisdom awakened in her like the morning sun.
True release from suffering is never effected by harping ad infinitum on the personally toned material of a painful complex. Freedom comes when, bearing our scars, we are able to rise above the personal to the level of the transpersonal . . . . (p. 77)
Eugene Pascal (1992). Jung to Live by.
Emphases are mine again.
Real wisdom is noticed or learned usually through personal difficulties. Spiritual awakening does happen that way.